girldetective

Yes, thats right if love is involved. The problem with Plan B is that if you become Plan A you question having ever been Plan B, and if you dont get to be Plan A you are devastated. Because of course like you say, you should have been Plan A all along, or at least after a while.

It is my experience in the short time Ive been dating that there comes a time in a relationship when you give up the thought of others and put your time and energy into the one you love, or you dont. A genuineness is wanted and needed. It just will not do to have a Plan B because by doing so, everyone become Plan B - there is no Plan A. Confusion and sleeplessness abounds.

Sometimes though it takes a little time to think things through and then youre not a Plan at all, but a notion. With me, Tpop is now a notion and Im his Plan B. Its wrecked.

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