I think it probably depends on what stage you're at in a relationship. By the time you're seriously involved, I think it's time to relegate any Plan B's into friendships - otherwise, as jj said, you're expecting your relationship to fail, and thus it probably will. I don't think being someone else's Plan B is necessarily all that bad - as long as you recognize that you are their second choice and set your expectations accordingly. I don't think I would ever want become really involved with someone - if I knew I started out as their Plan B or C - but it can make for some nice times. Not necessarily sexual - but someone to have drinks with etc - and frankly, it can be sort of funny to watch them try to string you along.
So, yeah - I was a couple of chicks' Plan B during late highschool and early college. They're still good friends - but attractive women at that age are used to getting what they want, including Plan A, B, C, and maybe D. After I realized where I was on their particular totem pole, the relationships went pretty smoothly for the most part. Except the occasional part where you make an ass of yourself.
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