girldetective

Shesus: Being a Plan B person can be very good if your SO maintains the relationship in a way that keeps one in love. The issue seems to be boundaries - of all kinds.

I have thought about the issues he would carry. My stand would be, as it has been all along, that those are his issues and if he would like I want to be involved in way that is positive and happy for everyone. I want his relationships to be better and stronger because of me, so I want to be careful. When he has negative issues to handle in his primary relationship, those are his to deal with alone. I will be happy to listen to him and give him guidance if he'd like, but I dont push.

My motivation is love. There is no denying that I am in the fist of love fever.

Its funny though. As good as Plan B can be, I keep trying to talk myself out of it. It seems to be working.

Sort of.

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