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Originally Posted by *Nikki*
Yes that is why I said "a man with any sense" would not have a problem with a woman's body after she gives birth to his child. You left that part of the quote out.
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Well, let me play devil's advocate here, for a bit. Not all of the guys posting about this topic seem to be "lacking sense"... I'd like to give them the benefit of the doubt, that they're truly struggling with something and that they wish their minds didn't work like that, but that they're trying to sort it out before they head down the divorce or cheating road.
Not saying that we should have pity for them--I sure don't!--but I think they *are* trying to come to terms with real life (after maybe 20 years of marriage and 2-3 kids), or they wouldn't be posting about it. Our society has not prepared men to accept those kinds of changes very well... marketing tells them to go out and find a younger model, ditch the ball and chain who mothered their children and got chubby as a result. That's tough programming for the average joe to resist. Just as our society has not encouraged women to accept their bodies as healthy and whole, even if we have some extra pounds... also tough for a lot of women to resist, even if they do have supportive partners. In the end, we all have to be responsible for ourselves, I guess... and hope that our partners will be, too.