girldetective

I dont want to imagine having the father of my child telling me I was unattractive due to the weight gain of carrying said child. That would be so incredibly hurtful. In addition, if one loses pregnancy weight back to pre-pregnancy weight, but has stretch marks, are they then labeled as unattractive? What if after nursing a woman's breasts fall or droop? Is she then unattractive?

Im getting kinda tired of men justifying their behavior with the usual "men need visual stimulation" routine that puts all of us on notice that we may not be good enough if we are not perfect. I am a woman and I am also visually stimulated, but I dont go around telling men that they need to change in order for to find them attractive. And what if one part of our body is perfect and another not? What if we have a fat bum, but perfect ankles? Fallen breasts, but great legs? Are we then less as a person?

I think this goes hand in hand with older men telling us that younger attractive women will be attracted to them. I believe in general this is untrue. When you were young were you thinking of shaggin the 50-60 yr old business man or the cute long-haired drummer of your fav local band? I was just talking with my friend J about this. I asked him to think about being 20 and having a 55 years old woman put the moves on him. It is sort of creepy. I pointed out that is probably how a 20 year old girl feels about him doing the same to her. Flattering maybe, and fun, but still sort of creepy.

Anyway, I dont worry too much about my weight, more about my height. Im naturally tall and thin (5'11"(!) and 130-140 pounds (136 today).

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