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Dad was the BBQer in the fam, and I remember him cooking 4 times in the kitchen. Twice he cooked while mom was in DC - both time consuming, gourmet meals for his 4 suspicious-of-new-foods girls. The first dish was shrimp creole; the second was some unusual meatball thing. The other 2 times he cooked was at Christmas for the extended family hen he cooked his spaghetti sauce which took hours. He took pride in it, and really it was excellent. Im going to look and see if I have it.
My ex does not cook. I often thought of giving him cooking lessons as a gift, but I knew he wouldnt like them and who wants gift they dont like right? But we had many conversations about this and tried some different schedule things that failed miserably. I thought it was a good skill to have and I thought perhaps it was fun we could have together, but as he said, why should he bother doing/learning something that doesnt interest him. However, if you want a peanut butter and honey sandwich, hes the one to go to.
Just recently J cooked a couple of meals for me. Both times, especially the first time, I was stunned and moved to just a few discreet tears. He did it effortlessly and seemed to take pleasure in it. I think he liked being able to do that for me, and I appreciated his talent and effort. At the same time he is so J - anxious. I wish he were normal.
Houseboat, the professional chef, coked dinner for me twice and that was a pleasure for me. He seemed focused on what he was doing and could take pride in his work. In addition he was pleasant dinner company - a breeze. Except for that damned gate.
So thats about it in re my experience with men cooking. There you go.
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