abaya

Yes, definitely. If I'm screwing up as a parent, I want someone (in a position of respect/authority) to tell me that.

I'm also afraid, though, of the grandparents (our parents) spoiling our kids... I don't see any of them being particularly strict on the kids, just indulging them mostly... and I wonder if that kind of thing influences kids' behavior much, if their main caretakers/babysitters are their indulgent grandparents? Where is the trade-off between expensive, strict daycare and free, indulgent grandparents as babysitters?

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