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tybarre · 06-06-2008, 07:36 PM

So the relationship started long distance. She was in Canada, going to school, and I was home in the States. We decided we wanted to be more than friends, despite our distance. But soon, she stopped writing to me. I suspected that she was seeing someone else, and I was right. When she came home, I ignored her calls, claimed to be over her, and had a panic attack thinking that it might actually be over. But then she wrote to me, a letter, telling me she loved me, she never meant to hurt me, she wanted me back. I accepted her without a second thought.

We became serious very fast. We were talking about moving in and getting married months into being together again. We had our whole futures planned out- we'd both go to school, albeit in different states, and live together when we could. But soon, she formed other plans. Before more school, she wanted to go to the Netherlands and become an au pair. For six and a half months. I told her I couldn't handle it, but she had decided to go, so, because I loved her, I accepted it.

A month in her stay in NL, she stopped writing so much. She didn't want to talk to me instead of partying with her new friends. She told me she wasn't attracted to anybody and she still loved me. Soon she decided six and a half months wasn't long enough, and she was going to stay an additional month. I flipped out. I became controlling as she pulled away, and one day, we reached our pinnacle. She told me she wasn't going to break up with me. An hour later, she did.

We continued talking, although most of the time it was nasty. I was practically begging her constantly to come back to me, and she was turning a cold shoulder. A few months later, she revealed that she had cheated on me. AGAIN. I began to hate her unlike anybody I have ever hated. We continued to talk, but every time I tried to confront her about what she did, she claimed that I was just trying to hurt her.

Recently, we've been talking, and although she's admitted that she is the one who fucked up and that she misses the relationship, she continues to belittle and toss aside my emotions. I decided just today that I never want to see or talk to her again. I deleted her from everything I could delete her from. I sent her an email telling her that I'm done with her, and I'm leaving it at that.

She's coming home in a week. I know she'll try to call me because she wants to see me, to apologize. I won't reply to her, I won't even acknowledge her existence. She's dead to me now.

We were together for three years. I regret every second of it.

06-06-2008, 07:36 PM	#119 (permalink)
tybarre Upright	my story So the relationship started long distance. She was in Canada, going to school, and I was home in the States. We decided we wanted to be more than friends, despite our distance. But soon, she stopped writing to me. I suspected that she was seeing someone else, and I was right. When she came home, I ignored her calls, claimed to be over her, and had a panic attack thinking that it might actually be over. But then she wrote to me, a letter, telling me she loved me, she never meant to hurt me, she wanted me back. I accepted her without a second thought. We became serious very fast. We were talking about moving in and getting married months into being together again. We had our whole futures planned out- we'd both go to school, albeit in different states, and live together when we could. But soon, she formed other plans. Before more school, she wanted to go to the Netherlands and become an au pair. For six and a half months. I told her I couldn't handle it, but she had decided to go, so, because I loved her, I accepted it. A month in her stay in NL, she stopped writing so much. She didn't want to talk to me instead of partying with her new friends. She told me she wasn't attracted to anybody and she still loved me. Soon she decided six and a half months wasn't long enough, and she was going to stay an additional month. I flipped out. I became controlling as she pulled away, and one day, we reached our pinnacle. She told me she wasn't going to break up with me. An hour later, she did. We continued talking, although most of the time it was nasty. I was practically begging her constantly to come back to me, and she was turning a cold shoulder. A few months later, she revealed that she had cheated on me. AGAIN. I began to hate her unlike anybody I have ever hated. We continued to talk, but every time I tried to confront her about what she did, she claimed that I was just trying to hurt her. Recently, we've been talking, and although she's admitted that she is the one who fucked up and that she misses the relationship, she continues to belittle and toss aside my emotions. I decided just today that I never want to see or talk to her again. I deleted her from everything I could delete her from. I sent her an email telling her that I'm done with her, and I'm leaving it at that. She's coming home in a week. I know she'll try to call me because she wants to see me, to apologize. I won't reply to her, I won't even acknowledge her existence. She's dead to me now. We were together for three years. I regret every second of it.