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Originally Posted by Kpax
I asked if this type of activity counted because I thought that putting only the tip in was called "rimjob." I lost my virginity at 25! I waited a 1/4 of a century! You can see why I keep count.
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Originally Posted by abaya
Um, no. That's no reason to keep count the way you are trying to do.
Sorry to tell you that you weren't the only 25 year old virgin in the world, so you're really not that special. Get over yourself.
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Originally Posted by allaboutmusic
Thank you, abaya... I can't believe the excuses you keep making for yourself. Ignorance is forgivable to some extent, all of us are ignorant to some extent about things. But for goodness sake, take some responsibility. Waiting 25 years doesn't automatically make you stupid.
I am more than happy to say that I'm still a virgin - by choice - and I am 27. I made that decision consciously (for romantic, non-religious reasons) after learning what I could about sex and the different views on it, and although at times it's hard to stick by that decision when opportunity presents itself, I don't use it as an excuse for myself. Grow up.
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All that needs to be said.
Your mindset about this issue is seriously warped - and, yes, a lot of that comes from your upbringing, but now you know that and so it's time to start fixing it. If that means you need to start seeing a therapist about your low self-esteem, warped perspective on sexual and relationship issues, and the damage caused by your strict religious upbringing, then so be it. I'd strongly recommend it (not that this hasn't been said to you here before, many times, by many different people).