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I don't know if I'm being unreasonable. I'm not going to tell her how I really feel, because she's helping him out with a place to stay. I want her to always beable to do what she wants to do without limits and barriers.
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That's so unbelievably unfair to her. If you want to, let her make the damn decisions, but let it at least be an informed decision. It's so stupid to not let her know, because she may-very-well not know. If you're really afraid that how you feel about something is going to "force" her to do something, then she's not a very strong woman. You can tell someone how you feel and they're still capable of making their own damn decision.
My girlfriend didn't want to tell me how she felt about certain things because she felt like I would be limited or barred or somehow forced to do what she wanted. It was more insulting than anything, her thinking that I was somehow so weak-willed that I'd be forced to do what she wanted after she told me.
If you tell her how she feels and still lets him move in, then you can at least be satisfied that you stood up like a man and told her how you felt.