Originally Posted by MuadDib

Fair enough. I generally agree, but let me add something and ask something further. First, she typically doesn't like talking about things. There have been a few occasions where I have tried to broach the subject of where we stood, since we live a distance apart, and our feelings about each other and such, but she would get uncomfortable and want to change the subject. I just assumed it was because she didn't want anything serious, and frankly neither did I, so I just let it slide. That partially informed my wait-and-see strategy here.

Second, assuming you still think I should talk about it. I am certainly open to suggestions about how to bring it up and what I should say beyond explaining what happened and assuring her it wasn't her fault and won't happen again. Also, there's is the distance thing. This doesn't strike me as a phone or email conversation. Should I wait the week until I am back and see her again in person, or is possibly an issue here if, as my friend's girlfriend supposed, she is somehow blaming herself? Lastly, I am concerned about coming off relationship-y. Though I do like her, and think she likes me, it is completely impractical to be too serious about our arrangement, as is it to have anything more than the casual when-you're-town dating arrangement we currently have. I don't want to give the impression that I want or expect more for fear of getting her hopes or, conversely, scaring her off.