I agree with abaya that discussing what happened would be a good way to demonstrate your openess and how much you care for the lady.
Many years ago I had a performance issue with a girl I really liked. The relationship was very slow to develop to the point where she was ready to sleep with me. The foreplay was tender and sweet but apparently I had built up a tremendous anticipation for our first time. Almost as soon as I entered her I lost my load.
She was clearly disappointed. There was nowhere to hide. I did manage to blurt out something about how I was so over exited to be with her that I couldn't help it. I told her that it never happened to me before (true statement) and I couldn't imagine it happening again with her.
Well the relationship didn't go anywhere after that and to this day I regret not having tried to discuss it with her again. Maybe it was my ego getting in the way but more probably it was my then shyness about discussing such matters and my huge embarassment about what happened. Since then I have learned that most women appreciate a man's effort to open up about intimate issues and feelings.
I don't want my story to be a downer for you MuadDib; I'm just trying to encourage you to consider opening up with the lady about it. I wish I had done that all those years back.
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Originally Posted by abaya
But it's up to you, really.
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