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Ktspktsp wanted to do this (done rather often in his country), but in the end it just didn't happen, and that turned out okay. My parents weren't surprised at all because I had been talking to them about the whole thing (from the point of view of it being MY and KTSPKTSP's decision, only--not theirs, or his parents) for a while.
I don't think there's any harm in NOT doing it (I think it's actually better to at least ask BOTH the parents, not just the dad... because that is by definition patriarchal), obviously... but there tend to be benefits all around, when you do ask. I think that it helps lay a good foundation with your future in-laws.
Then again, one of my now defunct friends went to the father of his wife-to-be, and the dad said NO, you are not good enough for my daughter. The guy went ahead and married her anyway, since that was what they wanted... but did not invite her entire nuclear family to the wedding. You can imagine how much fun THAT one was.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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