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Originally Posted by RolandGilead
Thanks for your answers up to now!
But, dammit, no one saying that I should look for more contact. As I said I would be glad already if we could end this on good terms. 
The contradiction betwen her saying that she thought it's over and her reaction now is the main problem I think. I probably hit her while she was seriously thinking about coming back to me.
I told her about the fling for 2 reasons: First (and really more important) I want to stay honest towards her and couldn't lie to her on such a scale.
Second (for those of you who think I'm completly irrational) there is a slight chance that she might have found out, the other girl was not a complete stranger (but far from even being an acquaintance).
You are also right when you say that she had a high whilst knowing she could come back to me anytime, and this is now destroyed. She even admitted this.
I am also sure that she does not have had any other guys since getting together with me. I know that I can trust her in this point.
And Ross was only in a relationship break! And he wasn't even honest to Rachel and tried to hide his affair...so I'm still better than him  
Well it's just a day or so since I told her, if she is still disgusted by me in a few weeks, I probably start to realize that it's over  |
Don't 'keep trying' with her. Really, just don't. There is no possibly good that could come of it. Unless you count her half-heartedly getting back together with you for a few more months to 'try again', and then going through this all over again (probably with more drama) as "good". The other option is that you will fall into the 'stalker' category, which you just don't want.
It's over dude. You (like many of us) just don't want to admit it yet.
Oh, and I think you were fine to tell her 'the truth', so long as you didn't tell her that you cheated on her...because that's not what happened. She will still use it as an excuse to you, and to herself, for being angry with you.