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Old 11-20-2007, 09:23 AM   #27 (permalink)
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I broach the subject with the SO, who gives me a chilly "you should go" but at the same time lets me know that she's really hurt that I would want to go overseas without her... even if it's just for 2 weeks...
If she says "You should go," take her by what she says. If someone consistently blackmails you in such a way, continue to take what they say, rather than what they imply with their face or body language. Soon enough, they'll learn that they have to actually SAY what they mean, rather than say what they DON'T mean and hope that you pick up on the nonverbal cues.

It goes for men and women alike, but I see women do it more often, because they're rarely challenged to say what they mean.
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