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I think you should go and I'm a girl. Does that help?
I understand the arguments from others saying she should be able to go with you.
But at the same time, I think she should be understanding of the fact that this is something between friends and that you are independent people, despite the fact that you love each other very much, that can do things apart and still be a solid couple. The fact that she has done this herself (though not gone as far away, granted), seems to be relevant to me. I think maybe she is just curious about Japan too and is sorry to miss the chance...
Still. You should go.
If she wants to go, that seems fine too, but you'll have to clear the air between you and her, and you and your friend, on that situation, before you make that move.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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