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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
Some of the responses here sadden me.
If I were your girlfriend and you left me behind while you went on a trip to Japan, I sure as hell wouldn't be waiting for you with open arms when you got back. What I don't understand is why you wouldn't want your girlfriend to go along, especially since it's a "Once in a lifetime opportunity"? Considering the fact that you've been with your girlfriend for four years, it should no longer be solely about "You" but rather about "You and your girlfriend". It doesn't matter if your buddy invited her or not. The assumption of all long-term couples is that if you invite someone on a rather big trip that the other is also going to come along.
How would you feel if your girlfriend decided to go off to, say, Paris for two weeks and didn't invite you along? You'd probably be crushed, hurt, humiliated and would start to question your relationship.
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You say that like the trip was
walkdontwalk's idea. It wasn't... and therein lies the difference.
And I don't agree with your assumption, either. I don't believe that couples should always act like they're conjoined twins. They are still individuals with their own interests and priorities and their own set of friends. His approach to life isn't solely about him... and that should be obvious because 1. he already talked to her about the possibility of her going with and 2. he's posted about it asking for advice.
If he were considering moving to Japan without her, then you may have a valid point... but I just don't see this as a big deal and if my SO was invited to travel overseas with a friend, I would wish her the best and tell her to send me a few postcards.