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I define my "friends" differently than the many acquaintances I have in life. To me friend is a strong word, a very strong word. It’s probably the reason why I can say I only have a small number of good friends; people I would trust with anything I have in life; including my life {which has been tested in the past.} Unfortunately I live far from most of them, so I hang out with allot of acquaintances that I like.
Even though I don’t know what you sound like I can almost hear your voice through your words. Outside of the understandable stress your probably going through I hear a frictional tone that make me think these guys don’t sound like friends (or my version of them) If you’re not having any friends and its solely family, it’s understandable why you don’t want any outside of such there. If these guys were just looking for a reason to hook up with you and get drunk, I don’t blame you. They sound more like takers than givers.
If they are the kind of people that are outwardly focused; true givers, and see their friends happiness as important; it’s also understandable why they would care to be present for such a big moment in their comrades life.
Obviously if you receive any harping after you informed them of the scenario I really question if these people are friends. You stated you’re not in the same place as them anymore; there should be no guilt in realizing they may not be friends anymore, just friends of the past.
I may not be a person that would have the best input though as my great grandparents had 22 kids, so I have allot of family I haven’t even seen; while I have friends that may as well be considered my brothers.
Just some humble input.
Congratulations; live long and prosper.
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To confine our attention to terrestrial matters would be to limit the human spirit.- Stephen Hawking
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