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So I have some old friends. We go way back. I'm talking our moms used to put us in the shower together way back...

Here's the deal. I'm getting married on Saturday. They were not invited. I'm having a very small, intimate wedding consisting of family. These friends live 8 hours away from me. I caught wind today that they are scheduled to come "surprise" me Wednesday.

The problem is that the surprise is not welcome. I have shit I need to do. Teri's family is flying in on Thursday and the house needs to be in tip-top condition. I also can't afford to go get drunk with them, as I need to be in tip-top shape. I have too many things I need to do to even begin to list.

I spent the better half of the day today on the phone with every one of them trying to explain to them that it wasn't personal but that they simply couldn't do that to me.

They're upset because they took the time off work to come visit me and I wont have them. I told them tough shit. That it was their own stupidity for putting me in that position and they'd have to live with it.

I'm moving to NY one month from now and they are upset that this could be the last time we ever get to see each other. This coming from my "friends" who haven't called me but like twice in the last four years.

I still love these guys. They’re my friends but we're totally not in the same place. Our lives are so different now.

Is it so much to ask that they respect me in my wishes? Do I blow them off for good rather then try to fix this so-called broken thing? I hurt their feelings today. Should I even care at this point...after all, they even toyed with the idea of crashing my wedding until I caught wind of that and put a halt to it. I mean these guys are still acting like they're in high school and using the bros over bitches’ motto-type of shit. Who fucken needs it?

Tell me I'm right in this folks....