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dirtyrascal7 · 10-10-2007, 10:55 AM

There are two kinds of relationships. Those based on convenience and those based on commitment.

When we first become interested in the opposite sex, all our romantic relationships are based on convenience. Eventually, we progress and mature enough and begin approaching relationships with a different perspective. We are now more responsible and have more aspects and demands in our lives, so any relationship approached with the same "based on convenience" attitude is doomed to fail.

Only when both people are committed to making things work will the relationship stand a chance of being successful... and I'm not even talking about marriage here, I simply mean taking the other person's view into consideration when making decisions and being respectful at all times.

soma -- It sounds like your pre-breakup relationship with this girl was based on convenience. Not to say you didn't make sacrifices for her from time to time, but your overall mindset was not in the right place.

You obviously still care about her, and so what you must do now is approach things differently and commit to being IN the relationship, rather than simply going through the motions.

It is not you that needs to change, it's your perspective. If you change that, everything else will come naturally and she will regain her trust in you.

10-10-2007, 10:55 AM	#40 (permalink)
dirtyrascal7 That's what she said	There are two kinds of relationships. Those based on convenience and those based on commitment. When we first become interested in the opposite sex, all our romantic relationships are based on convenience. Eventually, we progress and mature enough and begin approaching relationships with a different perspective. We are now more responsible and have more aspects and demands in our lives, so any relationship approached with the same "based on convenience" attitude is doomed to fail. Only when both people are committed to making things work will the relationship stand a chance of being successful... and I'm not even talking about marriage here, I simply mean taking the other person's view into consideration when making decisions and being respectful at all times. soma -- It sounds like your pre-breakup relationship with this girl was based on convenience. Not to say you didn't make sacrifices for her from time to time, but your overall mindset was not in the right place. You obviously still care about her, and so what you must do now is approach things differently and commit to being IN the relationship, rather than simply going through the motions. It is not you that needs to change, it's your perspective. If you change that, everything else will come naturally and she will regain her trust in you. __________________ "Tie yourself to your limitless potential, rather than your limiting past." "Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him." Last edited by dirtyrascal7; 10-10-2007 at 10:59 AM..