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Originally Posted by soma
Update:
Now, this whole thing ended because I didn't treat her right (yelled at her, said some things I shouldn't have) so I want to get back together, but also, I don't want to hurt her again. And she doesn't want that either. Like, I can say that I'll change, but I'm worried I might not be able to.
Well. Yeah. So things are still sort of uncertain now. But there's an update. Something for you all to chew on 
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Hmmm.
I really believe you can change by modifying your behavior. I get angry about the "I don't want to hurt her again" excuse cuz I see it as pussying out (my boyfriend and I have gone through that).
If the two of you want to try again, you have to acknowledge the pain you've caused each other and try even harder to communicate and listen so you can meet the needs of the other person.
Case-in-point, if you have anger issues, you need to learn to talk to her about stuff when you are calm and rational. It might also help to tell her you can't talk to her while you are angry because the words that come out don't mean anything. Basically, you need to take responsibility for your behavior. If you care a lot about this girl and you really do not want to hurt her, you'll find a way to make the relationship work.
I live with my foot in my mouth. I apologize a lot to people. My poor boyfriend.