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I think you can be, but the 6 months no contact thing helps. It also helps that when you do get in contact again, if you are both seeing other people. My gf and I broke up in the spring and it really hurt. But I was away all spring and summer and during that time she emailed me once or twice for advice on her thesis, but there was no other contact and I didn't initiate anything. I told myself that when I came home if she wanted to be friends, then she had to make the first move.
Sure enough, about a week after I came home, she IM-ed me one night and we got to talking. We went out for lunch and were able to rehash all the events of our breakup with no drama and have since remained friends, getting together for lunch or coffee a couple of times a week.
The thing about us is that both of us have only a few friends here, and that we really get along and enjoy each other's company. Both of us are getting our romantic/sexual needs with others, which frees us up to just be good friends.
You have to be very honest with each other.
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