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LiBan · 09-28-2007, 04:29 PM

1. Communicate clearly. I can infer some things, but I am not a mind reader. You have to tell me what you are thinking, why you did that and what has upset you.
2. Have a sense of humor. I crave laughter. If I'm not laughing with you on a regular basis the relationship is not going to work.
3. Be supportive. There is a difference between being supportive and trying to fix things for me. I do not want you to solve my problems. If I ask for advice, then tell me what you think I need to do. If I do not ask you, then just offer encouragement.
4. Respect my friends. Understand that the people I call friend have earned that. Understand that I will drop what I am doing to help a friend, just as they understand that I will drop what I am doing if you need me.
5. Be willing to try new things. Short of what is illegal or just plain stupid, I make an effort to try anything twice. Be willing to try it once.
6. Cook. I mean more than Hamburger Helper. I do not expect you to be gourmet, but be able to put together a meal which is good and balanced.
7. Be a gentleman. It makes me feel special to have you open the door for me. It is polite to offer to carry the heavy thing for me.
8. Neither of us is correct 100% of the time. I will apologize when I'm wrong. Do the same.
9. I am the only significant other that you have. I will not compete with alcohol, drugs, another person or anything else. I respect hobbies, work and the need to be alone, but I will not compete for your attention and affection.
10. Want me. I am not the kind of person who believes in settling when it comes to love. You should want to be with me and want to work with me on the relationship.

09-28-2007, 04:29 PM	#6 (permalink)
LiBan Upright Location: Alabama	1. Communicate clearly. I can infer some things, but I am not a mind reader. You have to tell me what you are thinking, why you did that and what has upset you. 2. Have a sense of humor. I crave laughter. If I'm not laughing with you on a regular basis the relationship is not going to work. 3. Be supportive. There is a difference between being supportive and trying to fix things for me. I do not want you to solve my problems. If I ask for advice, then tell me what you think I need to do. If I do not ask you, then just offer encouragement. 4. Respect my friends. Understand that the people I call friend have earned that. Understand that I will drop what I am doing to help a friend, just as they understand that I will drop what I am doing if you need me. 5. Be willing to try new things. Short of what is illegal or just plain stupid, I make an effort to try anything twice. Be willing to try it once. 6. Cook. I mean more than Hamburger Helper. I do not expect you to be gourmet, but be able to put together a meal which is good and balanced. 7. Be a gentleman. It makes me feel special to have you open the door for me. It is polite to offer to carry the heavy thing for me. 8. Neither of us is correct 100% of the time. I will apologize when I'm wrong. Do the same. 9. I am the only significant other that you have. I will not compete with alcohol, drugs, another person or anything else. I respect hobbies, work and the need to be alone, but I will not compete for your attention and affection. 10. Want me. I am not the kind of person who believes in settling when it comes to love. You should want to be with me and want to work with me on the relationship.