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If someone told me that they were uncomfortable being seen with me because of something completely superficial, and that person didn't happen to sign my paychecks, i'd tell them to fuck off. If you don't want to be seen with me you can go be seen elsewhere. That would be me being brutally honest. It's one thing to acknowledge the fact that i look like a douchebag, because looking like a douchebag is often at least partly my goal in dressing and/or shaving the way that i do. However, I don't really feel the need to be friends, or really even associate, with people who are so shallow and insecure as to feel so embarrassed by the fact that i look like a douchebag that they don't want to publicly associate with me. Dressing like a douchebag is a nice way to screen those types of people out of my life.
I'm all for honesty when it serves a purpose, and i recognized that the simple fact that i am not really all that representative of the vast majority of people means the situations where i employ honesty might differ from others.
That being said, when the actions or appearances of people around me make me uncomfortable, provided the discomfort isn't acute, before i assume that my discomfort is righteous i like to take a moment and question whether my being uncomfortable is the result of me being petty, or the result of something more substantial.
If my discomfort is the result of pettiness on my part, than it is my problem, and you don't need to hear about my problem. If my discomfort is the result of something more substantial, than i would probably let you know.
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