abaya

Umm, how about neither? Do you really think we have "issues" standing up for anything?... I'm sure you've read tons of threads about people who *needed* to stand up for things, and a lot of us told those people so. In this thread, a lot of us are seeing that you *need* to run away from these roommates, and incidentally, you might do well to run away from those other unhealthy influences in your life as well. When standing up for something doesn't do you a shit-ounce of good (as in your cases, because *all* of the people you're dealing with are headcases), then yeah, the best alternative is to get the fuck outta Dodge.

I don't think any one of us would say that the answer to life is to "run from everything." Quite the opposite, usually. But your circumstances in particular warrant a lot of running, to get away from that shit and start over somewhere else. You don't fit with any of it, man. That's what we're trying to tell you. You deserve better roommates, a better woman, a better job. Continuing to treat those people as permanent fixtures of your life is only going to stress you out more and bring you more grief. Do you really want that? If so, feel free to not change anything, but the advice here is not gonna change if you come back looking for advice. If you don't want to live like that, however, then RUN, man. The choices are clear.

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