Originally Posted by cyklone

When we talk about these things with our partner they learn who we are, they understand us, they know us in depth. In feeling that way they are more "in touch" with us, and more likely to jump your bones. Otherwise, after a few years of not talking about things that really matter because you've been tied up with raising kids etc, they start to feel as if you are a stranger. They feel lonely lying in bed next to you and they are vulnerable to the first stranger that comes along and talks to them about the way they feel. Take note that most women who have affairs will say that it was because he listened to her.