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Shauk · 08-28-2007, 02:27 PM

get a different girlfriend.

ok I say that in half jest but, I had a girlfriend who was cool with porn, who liked it.

One day though she got upset that I had looked at some. Turns out to her, porn was watching "sex" and therefore was only neat to her because of that, and it ramped her up a bit.

I guess she got into a discussion about porn with some dumbass co-worker of hers who insisted that porn is just a way for guys to mentally "cheat" on thier girlfriends because they just fantasize about fucking porn stars while they get thier rocks off.

needless to say she took it to heart.

it came down to a battle between the 2 of us several times. The 1st round I agreed to see her point of view and attempt to remove it from my existance and just be totally "me and her" about the relationship. But there were times that we weren't seeing eachother much, or getting along for some other reason, or she was out of commission due to the girlie week. I managed to scrape by without for a while but eventually it just sucked. I also noticed she had no problem watching porn of her own so it kind of came down to a double standard on her part (although this doesnt sound like it would be an issue with your girlfriend) eventually she just fessed up that she was being possessive and controlling and that she never had an issue with it before with any of her other relationships, that it was just me that she pretty much feared losing to another woman.

Basically, what it comes down to is, you need to sit her down and tell her to learn to trust you and accept your habits. If she cant trust you around girls who aren't real, it will only get worse if you hang out with any other friends who are also girls in reality. It's not YOUR problem man, she needs to have her trust issues dealt with so she can realize a relationship isn't about "possession" and "control"

basically she was afraid that i'd leave her for another girl, and the irony of it all was, she left me for another guy. So it could also be a warning sign that she's looking for the flaws that she has in herself, in you.

08-28-2007, 02:27 PM	#10 (permalink)
Shauk Confused Adult Location: Spokane, WA	get a different girlfriend. ok I say that in half jest but, I had a girlfriend who was cool with porn, who liked it. One day though she got upset that I had looked at some. Turns out to her, porn was watching "sex" and therefore was only neat to her because of that, and it ramped her up a bit. I guess she got into a discussion about porn with some dumbass co-worker of hers who insisted that porn is just a way for guys to mentally "cheat" on thier girlfriends because they just fantasize about fucking porn stars while they get thier rocks off. needless to say she took it to heart. it came down to a battle between the 2 of us several times. The 1st round I agreed to see her point of view and attempt to remove it from my existance and just be totally "me and her" about the relationship. But there were times that we weren't seeing eachother much, or getting along for some other reason, or she was out of commission due to the girlie week. I managed to scrape by without for a while but eventually it just sucked. I also noticed she had no problem watching porn of her own so it kind of came down to a double standard on her part (although this doesnt sound like it would be an issue with your girlfriend) eventually she just fessed up that she was being possessive and controlling and that she never had an issue with it before with any of her other relationships, that it was just me that she pretty much feared losing to another woman. Basically, what it comes down to is, you need to sit her down and tell her to learn to trust you and accept your habits. If she cant trust you around girls who aren't real, it will only get worse if you hang out with any other friends who are also girls in reality. It's not YOUR problem man, she needs to have her trust issues dealt with so she can realize a relationship isn't about "possession" and "control" basically she was afraid that i'd leave her for another girl, and the irony of it all was, she left me for another guy. So it could also be a warning sign that she's looking for the flaws that she has in herself, in you. Last edited by Shauk; 08-28-2007 at 02:39 PM..