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Originally Posted by TotalMILF
Uhm, preach much? Before you try to dole out unsolicited advice, you might want to do some research before jumping up on your soapbox. I think Crompsin has every right to have the outlook that he does at the moment. If you were deployed for over a year and came home thinking that Healer would be so happy to have you home, but instead found out that he had been fucking other women while you'd been getting shot at and now wanted a divorce, I can guaran-damn-tee that you'd be pretty damned jaded, too. What his ex did was unforgivable, IMHO, and completely negates anything positive she may have contributed to the relationship. Crompsin has every right to feel the way he does. Should he have posted his thoughts in this particular thread? I dunno. Should you have retorted the way you did? Definitely not.
/me apologizes for the threadjack.
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Firstly, i apologise if what i said offended anyone else, other than TotalMilf.
Secondly, no I don not preach but i always try to live, think and breathe positivity.
thirdly, I was neither trying to give advice nor jump on any soapbox.
Fourth, this thread was started to breed positivity about one's SO. Sure, you think it to yourself all the time and you may say it to your SO from time to time too. But one day when he/she is driving you up the wall, it's something to look back on and remember why you love and care for them despite the goings on at that present moment.
Fifth, TotalMilf, I completely understand where you are coming from and I can totally identify with trying to defend a friend. But I dont think it was up to you to decide whether or not the "advice" i was "trying to dole out" was unsolicited, un-asked for or unwanted, even though that was not my intention.
That decision is/was up to Crompsin, and though he may agree with you, it was still his say to say, not yours.
And while i can appreciate what you did because I would have most probably done the same thing, although just not as rough and tumble as you.
There is a fine line between being straight forward and just plain rude.
Sixth, what Crompsin ex did...GAAASSSHHH! i dont even know where to begin on that one...but I am truly sorry for what she did to you, Cromp.
Seventh, had it been Healer and myself in that situation, tes, i most probably would have been a bit jaded, but i would do my utmost to keep myself living, breathing and thinking positive. I'm not saying that it would be hard or even worked at all, but i most definately would have tried.
So, should he have posted his thoughts in this particular thread? NO...'cos he could have started his own "ex bashing thread" in which to post his story and his thoughts and feelings.
Should i have replied the way i did?... definately so! Because what he said was uncalled for in this particular thread.