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ratbastid · 07-29-2007, 12:47 PM

Nobody and nothing can ever "make" you insecure. You're insecure or not entirely because of what you turn situations in your life into.

That "pretty girl" in school wasn't "prettier than you" and that didn't "give you issues". You made stuff up and ran with it. There's nothing and nobody outside yourself that "made you" ANYTHING AT ALL. Ever. End of story.

We human beings LOVE blaming outside events (particularly the behavior of our loved ones!) for our feelings. But maybe our feelings are our feelings, our reactions. Maybe if we took responsibility for our reactions to things, we'd stop being such victims in life.

I'm not condoning any behavior on your boyfriend's part. I'm just saying the relying on another person's behavior for your emotional state is a losing game.

07-29-2007, 12:47 PM	#20 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	Nobody and nothing can ever "make" you insecure. You're insecure or not entirely because of what you turn situations in your life into. That "pretty girl" in school wasn't "prettier than you" and that didn't "give you issues". You made stuff up and ran with it. There's nothing and nobody outside yourself that "made you" ANYTHING AT ALL. Ever. End of story. We human beings LOVE blaming outside events (particularly the behavior of our loved ones!) for our feelings. But maybe our feelings are our feelings, our reactions. Maybe if we took responsibility for our reactions to things, we'd stop being such victims in life. I'm not condoning any behavior on your boyfriend's part. I'm just saying the relying on another person's behavior for your emotional state is a losing game. Last edited by ratbastid; 07-29-2007 at 12:54 PM..