burtsbees

Has this ever happened to anyone else?

We've been dating for about 2 years and everything was going well. I'm comfortable with mainstream porn, but one day I came across pictures of my friends in his porn folder. They weren't pornographic pictures; they were just pictures from myspace that my friends took when they went clubbing, or when they were wearing something revealing. This makes things awkward.

I'm insecure as ever. I feel super ugly and incompetant and I'm obsessed with fashion and make up. I was never like this and it makes me so angry that this small incident has changed me so much.

I have a small resentment to those friends that he had pictures of, and I feel guilty at times because they didn't DO anything at all.

I've talked to him about it and he says he's very very sorry. He deleted the pics and he swears that he didn't know that it would hurt me so much. He tells me that he thinks I'm beautiful and that he loves me and would never do anything intentionally to hurt me... but even after all that, it still hurts, and I can't get over it, and I'm still bitter.

It's affecting my personality, my friendships, and our relationship. Does anyone have any advice? Can someone slap me and get me to forget about it? Or should I not sweep this under the rug?