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Originally Posted by JinnKai
But I think you're dramatically in the minority in the assumption that men can have feelings about sex too.
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Well, I'm not so sure... take a look at how many of the responses above are by men themselves, jumping at the chance to have sex... doesn't do much to improve the stereotype, does it? Not saying that it's fair, but it doesn't accurately represent those men who wouldn't like it.
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If this thread were about a woman freaking about a text message about cunnilingus at work, it would be perceived by the majority as completely normal and I doubt many people would be attacking her response so much as agreeing that she had a right to be upset.
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Well Jinn, I don't know about that, because it hasn't happened (a thread like that)... hard to predict how people will behave until you actually test it empirically. For myself, though, I would hold the same standards of behavior for both men and women in terms of communicating effectively and kindly. No one deserves to be shut down the way this guy did to his wife, and if it was the wife shutting down the husband, she'd also deserve criticism in my book.
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It's somehow normal for women to have difficulty "communicating" their feelings and articulating why it was inappropriate, but if a man fails to do so he's either "wrong in the head" for refusing sex or just an asshole who can't communicate.
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Now this is odd, I've actually never heard that it's normal for women to have difficulty communicating their feelings... I always thought that the stereotype was that women communicated too MUCH of their feelings. But yet again, personally, I think that if anyone communicates in an asshole manner, then he OR she is an asshole, regardless of what kind of plumbing is on the front of their body.