I think that this phenomenon of "ignoring your friends when starting a new relationship" is more prevalent in younger people. The line of thinking is something like "If I don't spend all of my time with my S.O. then I might lose him/her." It seems to be territorial ... ie. if you aren't with that person then someone else must be and jealousy steps in and it gets ugly.
As you mature you begin to realize that it's all just bullshit. There is no need to spend ALL OF YOUR TIME with your S.O. It requires a certain amount of trust and faith. These are things that we learn over time.
The sad part is that a LOT of people never make it past this teen-age way of thinking--which is what makes the T.V. show COPS so much fun to watch.
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