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Sad Cilli Willi · 06-30-2007, 04:05 AM

So tell me this:

When you get newly involved in a relationship, how common is it to leave your friends behind?

For me, my friends are my friends. I make time to see and chat with my friends while I start dating someone new and don't take them for granted. As any relationship (friendships included) I think they all require your attention and TLC and neglecting them only leads to trouble....

If a person neglects their friends (we're talking all contact: communications, outings etc) as if they are no longer friends during the corse of dating this new person, do you find it reasonable? Would you expect in a few months (2, 3, 4, 5, or even 6...) for those friends to still be there, waiting around?

I'm interested in people's experiences and their views on this. I know it truly bothers/upsets some people for their friends to get so involved in a new relationship that it feels like they've dropped from the face of the earth, but I'm also wondering..... Is this to be expected? Should the friends be understanding and let it go - or do they have a right to be frustrated with the situation?

06-30-2007, 04:05 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sad Cilli Willi Upright	New relationship = Leave your friends behind? So tell me this: When you get newly involved in a relationship, how common is it to leave your friends behind? For me, my friends are my friends. I make time to see and chat with my friends while I start dating someone new and don't take them for granted. As any relationship (friendships included) I think they all require your attention and TLC and neglecting them only leads to trouble.... If a person neglects their friends (we're talking all contact: communications, outings etc) as if they are no longer friends during the corse of dating this new person, do you find it reasonable? Would you expect in a few months (2, 3, 4, 5, or even 6...) for those friends to still be there, waiting around? I'm interested in people's experiences and their views on this. I know it truly bothers/upsets some people for their friends to get so involved in a new relationship that it feels like they've dropped from the face of the earth, but I'm also wondering..... Is this to be expected? Should the friends be understanding and let it go - or do they have a right to be frustrated with the situation?