You know, I've never really mentioned this before, but pretty much the only reason I love hanging out in this forum is because of the sexuality board, and because of how open everyone here is about sexuality.
But what draws me in is that fact a lot of advice here doesn't center around sex it self so much, as it does communication and relating to your parter/s.
I grew up watching the pretty loveless marriage my parents were in, and it was completely counter to what we're told marriage is supposed to be about. And the chief reason their marriage was dead was because neither of them knew how to properly communicate with each other.
So after that, I decided to fuck the central idea that we have to be in a relationship to be happy, and that if you're in one, you're expected to make it last as long as you can, to what seemed to me for just the sake of it. In other words, I didn't want to accept that we have to live a certain way because that's what is deemed normal.
I've never been one to really care about explaining myself to others, and lets face it, there's probably a lot about me that's really best left unexplained
. But one thing I've learned is that when emotions start being put on the line, the only way to truly navigate a usually tricky mine field is to communicate.
But what the hell does that ever really mean anyways?
My interpretation on that is making sure all parties know EXACTLY where they stand with each other. That means making your thoughts and feelings known. Unfortunately, it doesn't always mean people will accept it, or that things will magically get easier, or be resolved. I think that's where a persons nature and personality come into it. It's one thing to be able to communicate, it's another thing to be able to handle and deal with the information being communicated. One still has to be reasonable, rational, and willing to compromise and sacrifice in order to get what they want and still keep others happy.
I found that article very interesting. But like others said, without hearing it from the husbands side of it, how much of it is him just sucking it up for the sake of his marriage?
But on the flip side, maybe they're are both totally happy, and maybe it just works for them just fine. If they're both as open with each other as the article suggests, I'd see no reason why he couldn't be. Going out and sleeping around simply might not be his thing, I know it's not mine.
Hehehe, any who, I'm trying to bang out too many ideas and I'm not articulating them, that's what happens when I'm at work
