lurkette

So I'm sure most "alternative" relationships butt up against this wall at some time or another:

What do we call each other?

Ratbastid and I are husband and wife, but what are we to StellaLuna, and she to us? There are options, but all of them seem to kind of fall short.

Girlfriend/Boyfriend is what we've been using, but it doesn't entirely cut it.
Husband/Wife carries certain connotations of hetero monogamy that don't really cut it, either
Lover...um, no. Too Leisure Suit Larry.
Secondary/primary are just too hierarchical, and don't convey much to people not familiar with Polyamory terminology.

Any suggestions from the peanut gallery?

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