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Originally Posted by spectre
I read this over a few times and I can't help but wonder why avoiding the label of "vanilla" is so important to you. Really, what does it matter if you are extremely kinky or as vanilla as can be? As long as you're having fun, that's what's important and you need to do what works best for you and what you enjoy. Sex is all about enjoyment. Do what makes you happy, not what helps you avoid a label.  |
Well, a lot of it may be related to the fact that I lived as a "label" (Christian) for a good part of my life, and I have spent the last 7 years disassociating myself from it. I have stopped doing things that would cast me, in any form, under that label... going to church, praying, meeting in fellowship with other Christians, reading the Bible, perhaps even believing in God. Some of those things used to make me happy, but I did not want to be identified with what those things stood for.
So I guess being "vanilla" somehow associates me (and only me, in my mind) with being Christian, and I don't know why... but it does. There is no rationality to it, spectre, I must admit... but for me, the label still carries power for me. Something to do with repression/oppression, I don't know. I expect that I will "evolve" out of it, eventually, but for now I need to distance myself from it. I don't want anything to do with the Christian normal-curve, especially the parts of it related to normative sexual behavior.