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Originally Posted by abaya
It's just a matter of me actually feeling comfortable, let alone turned on, by some of these things.
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I went through a realization/struggle that maybe I was vanilla. Porn, magazines, and erotica played a huge part in that. I fought with this and tried many things. It got to the point where sex was more work that it was fun. I realized that we have a good enough repetoire for now and it's not worth making sex so much like work.
I said this before and it might have gotten lost in the rest of the post. However, if you are turned on and getting off and enjoying yourself, what does it matter if it's 'vanilla' by some people's standards? Yea, it's good to have some surprises and experiments now and then to keep the excitement or newness. However, I find that the good ole in and out, oral stimulation, and other 'vanilla' stand-bys are very enjoyable and don't have the stress of being in uncomfortable positions or situations.
I think that people think they are too normal and that has somehow become a bad thing. Why try to be comfortable with things if you don't have to?
Why are you pushing yourself to become kinkier if it's not turning you on?