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I've publicized my religious views, so you know where I stand on this. I have no problem with attending religious ceremonies, even though I typically stand, sit, and sing when we're supposed to and let my eyes gloss over while my mind wanders for most of it.

As for children, it's easier for me than for you; I will never have children with someone who insists on raising them religious. For your situation, it would be an insult to you if your wife wanted to raise the children in the church. You said it all in your second post: a priest abused you, they deny that it happened, they defend him in court. Raising a child in that environment is no better than raising your son to follow in your footsteps and pushing him to take a job in a business run by a crime syndicate. You have every right to raise him spiritually and to worship in his own way, letting him know why you left thr church when he's old enough to understand, but you need to let your wife know that to go back without the church having radically changed its beliefs and actions on this issue is simply giving up and condoning what they do.