I have to say I'm very surprised at the turn of this thread.
"Women are Selfish". Hmmm. I'd expect something a bit less simplistic than that here. Honestly, that's a rediculous statement.
People are people. Some are "good", some are "bad". Some give and some take. Most people have a balance between the two--and it's ever-changing. Often it can be difficult, even with well-intentioned couples, to know when to suck it up, and when to speak up and protect themselves.
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Originally Posted by Toaster126
Perhaps the reason it seems like the problems start when the male is expressing emotion is because they sometimes won't until the problem is serious or long lasting. As in, the problem already existed, and the male wasn't emoting about it.
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I agree strongly with this statement. I know I do the same thing myself (female here). It's also not uncommon for there to be signs of trouble, of one person trying (imperfectly, but at least trying) to address the situation, give signs of dissatisfaction with the situation, only to be completely ignored or those signs disregarded.
Moskie, I think that you are justified to feel the way you do, I know that the situation you wrote about would make me unhappy too...but it's your responsibility (and opportunity for growth) to say something right then and there. Believe me, I know it's not easy, but personal growth seldom is.
Don't sit and stew on things until UNemotional discussion is not possible, and any disagreement is an inevitable precursor to a breakup.
Abaya's post is absolutely spot-on: memorize it.
I will try to as well.
Good luck!
