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Moskie · 11-14-2006, 06:42 PM

The story with the latest girl is convoluted, and if I were to explain it all, I know the advice would be to just move on. But, love is a harsh mistress. Or something.

Our relationship has only been "serious" (she has issues with that definition) for a couple months now. But before that, for around a year, there was a huge amount of passion, sexual and otherwise. As we spent more and more time together (I began to spend 4-5 nights a week at her place), I felt a sort of lack of affection, if that makes sense. I couldn't tell if she really had serious feelings for me. I called her out on it, and it blew up into what it is now.

I honestly think she has strong feelings for me. But my desire to have her express it caused this whole issue. She's been very receptive to me doing things I would classify as "boyfriend duties," but I just felt she wasn't reciprocating. All I was looking for was her to reassure me that she cared about me. A hug and a deep kiss would have sufficed. But she balked on it.

*sigh*... isn't it the guy who's supposed to be afraid of commitment? We were always more than friends with benefits. I think she became afraid to admit that to herself though....

11-14-2006, 06:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Moskie Pure Chewing Satisfaction Location: can i use bbcode [i]here[/i]?	The story with the latest girl is convoluted, and if I were to explain it all, I know the advice would be to just move on. But, love is a harsh mistress. Or something. Our relationship has only been "serious" (she has issues with that definition) for a couple months now. But before that, for around a year, there was a huge amount of passion, sexual and otherwise. As we spent more and more time together (I began to spend 4-5 nights a week at her place), I felt a sort of lack of affection, if that makes sense. I couldn't tell if she really had serious feelings for me. I called her out on it, and it blew up into what it is now. I honestly think she has strong feelings for me. But my desire to have her express it caused this whole issue. She's been very receptive to me doing things I would classify as "boyfriend duties," but I just felt she wasn't reciprocating. All I was looking for was her to reassure me that she cared about me. A hug and a deep kiss would have sufficed. But she balked on it. sigh... isn't it the guy who's supposed to be afraid of commitment? We were always more than friends with benefits. I think she became afraid to admit that to herself though.... __________________ Greetings and salutations. Last edited by Moskie; 11-14-2006 at 06:57 PM..