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Terminal Frost · 11-07-2006, 08:08 PM

I'm making a huge assumption, so I could be way off base, but I think that you need to be more "yourself." You sound like me, and I personally could not imagine meeting a girl at a bar, club, party, or even coffee shop. I'm 20 and I've had two long term relationships and I have lost my virginity. I say this not to rub it in your face, but to let you know how this has happened. I never went to any parties in high school except the ones that I had at my house and I never went out and hooked up with random girls that I met out on the town. Have you considered just finding someone within your close circle of friends, or even just a friend of a friend?

I'me sorry if I've got this totally wrong, but it honestly just seems to me like you're going about finding a girl the wrong way considering what you are looking to get out of the relationship. Others have previously stated, and I would like to reiterate, that you should look elsewhere for women. Start out slow. Find a girl that you think is interesting and attractive and get to know her, become her friend. Lots of people get really hung up on the "I can never get past the friendship stage," but if things don't work out then you're still ahead of the game because you've got a hot female friend, and guess what? She will have other friends that you can meet, too! Sooner or later something will work out for you. It sounds to me like you need to have the confidence to be who you are. You are thinking too much about what you need to do in order to get a girl. Doing so will only leave you frustrated. I became good friends with the girl that I am currently with and we spent months together before anything happened romantically. I think you just need to slow down and stop thinking about it and then it will happen for you. Not all girls out there are the same and they are not all looking for a quick lay. Yeah, there are plenty of girls like that in college, but there are also a lot of good ones (for people like me and you) who are looking for someone like yourself. You shouldn't have to change anything about yourself to find girl that you would want to have a meaningful relationship with. Think about it - it just doesn't make sense.

11-07-2006, 08:08 PM	#13 (permalink)
Terminal Frost Tilted Location: Manhattan Island	I'm making a huge assumption, so I could be way off base, but I think that you need to be more "yourself." You sound like me, and I personally could not imagine meeting a girl at a bar, club, party, or even coffee shop. I'm 20 and I've had two long term relationships and I have lost my virginity. I say this not to rub it in your face, but to let you know how this has happened. I never went to any parties in high school except the ones that I had at my house and I never went out and hooked up with random girls that I met out on the town. Have you considered just finding someone within your close circle of friends, or even just a friend of a friend? I'me sorry if I've got this totally wrong, but it honestly just seems to me like you're going about finding a girl the wrong way considering what you are looking to get out of the relationship. Others have previously stated, and I would like to reiterate, that you should look elsewhere for women. Start out slow. Find a girl that you think is interesting and attractive and get to know her, become her friend. Lots of people get really hung up on the "I can never get past the friendship stage," but if things don't work out then you're still ahead of the game because you've got a hot female friend, and guess what? She will have other friends that you can meet, too! Sooner or later something will work out for you. It sounds to me like you need to have the confidence to be who you are. You are thinking too much about what you need to do in order to get a girl. Doing so will only leave you frustrated. I became good friends with the girl that I am currently with and we spent months together before anything happened romantically. I think you just need to slow down and stop thinking about it and then it will happen for you. Not all girls out there are the same and they are not all looking for a quick lay. Yeah, there are plenty of girls like that in college, but there are also a lot of good ones (for people like me and you) who are looking for someone like yourself. You shouldn't have to change anything about yourself to find girl that you would want to have a meaningful relationship with. Think about it - it just doesn't make sense. Last edited by Terminal Frost; 11-07-2006 at 08:13 PM..