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ngdawg · 10-08-2006, 05:31 PM

My first advice is to leave, specially if the kids are young. Trust me, the older they get the harder it is to go and start over.
There is an oft-used Ann Landers line: 'Are you better off with or without him?' Being so miserable, I'd say without, but only you know the answer to that question.
Obviously, his first concern is not you. And your first concern should be. Your happiness must come first-the happiness of your kids will follow.
If you simply can't go for whatever reason (not excuse, reason), perhaps you should consider open marriage. If he won't talk about any of it, write to him. Sounds odd to have to write to your own spouse, but it actually works pretty good-there's no yelling, no confusion, no forgetting what to say. You can lay it out clearly by writing, whether pen and paper or email.

10-08-2006, 05:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
ngdawg peekaboo Location: on the back, bitch	My first advice is to leave, specially if the kids are young. Trust me, the older they get the harder it is to go and start over. There is an oft-used Ann Landers line: 'Are you better off with or without him?' Being so miserable, I'd say without, but only you know the answer to that question. Obviously, his first concern is not you. And your first concern should be. Your happiness must come first-the happiness of your kids will follow. If you simply can't go for whatever reason (not excuse, reason), perhaps you should consider open marriage. If he won't talk about any of it, write to him. Sounds odd to have to write to your own spouse, but it actually works pretty good-there's no yelling, no confusion, no forgetting what to say. You can lay it out clearly by writing, whether pen and paper or email. __________________ Don't blame me. I didn't vote for either of'em.