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josie333 · 10-08-2006, 03:50 PM

How do you get over a cheating husband?

For the last two years I have been dealing with this woman, who is bold enough to call our home and ask my husband out on dates. She does this even after I answer the phone. I confronted him serveral times about it . I also spoke with her and she agreed never to talk to him again. That only took her 1 min...she called from my driveway. This continued for a year. He swore he wasn't talking to her. He was all along. He even got her a job in his department.....That was it for me. He has insisted that they only had a friendship. There was nothing going on. What I can't understand if there was or is nothing going on than why can't he let her go????? He is holding on to that relationship harder than his own marriage....I left him in Feb. and he talked me into coming home in May.

He said he wouldn't talk to her or see her anymore. Since I came back I have caught him calling her or her calling him on several times. He lied. Sometimes I think he wants to ge caught. When I ask him about her he gets angry. I can 't even say her name. The last time I caught him was Sep. 28. I cried for 2 days. I knew it was over for me. I can't be with someone who can 't let go of a person who is causing a huge hardship on our marriage.

I tried to have a honest conversation with him. He wasn't interested. He said I was attacking him. All I did is ask if we could have a honest converstion. It is now Oct. and I have caught him in lie after lie. How do I end it and not destroy my children?

I love him but he is driving me out of my mind. This is what I am considering. Stay living together. We are great friends and have a lot of fun together. Like roomates, not lovers. I continue to let him do his thing with her. I find someone who wants me for me. Right now, all I am to him is a front .He wants everyone to thinks he's happy with his family. Appearence is everything to him.

What should I do?

10-08-2006, 03:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
josie333 Upright Location: Central WI	How do I get over a cheating husband? How do you get over a cheating husband? For the last two years I have been dealing with this woman, who is bold enough to call our home and ask my husband out on dates. She does this even after I answer the phone. I confronted him serveral times about it . I also spoke with her and she agreed never to talk to him again. That only took her 1 min...she called from my driveway. This continued for a year. He swore he wasn't talking to her. He was all along. He even got her a job in his department.....That was it for me. He has insisted that they only had a friendship. There was nothing going on. What I can't understand if there was or is nothing going on than why can't he let her go????? He is holding on to that relationship harder than his own marriage....I left him in Feb. and he talked me into coming home in May. He said he wouldn't talk to her or see her anymore. Since I came back I have caught him calling her or her calling him on several times. He lied. Sometimes I think he wants to ge caught. When I ask him about her he gets angry. I can 't even say her name. The last time I caught him was Sep. 28. I cried for 2 days. I knew it was over for me. I can't be with someone who can 't let go of a person who is causing a huge hardship on our marriage. I tried to have a honest conversation with him. He wasn't interested. He said I was attacking him. All I did is ask if we could have a honest converstion. It is now Oct. and I have caught him in lie after lie. How do I end it and not destroy my children? I love him but he is driving me out of my mind. This is what I am considering. Stay living together. We are great friends and have a lot of fun together. Like roomates, not lovers. I continue to let him do his thing with her. I find someone who wants me for me. Right now, all I am to him is a front .He wants everyone to thinks he's happy with his family. Appearence is everything to him. What should I do?