So...what's up with that ? There seems to be a modern problem between men and dancing. Back in olden days it was customary for people to dance, it didn't matter if you knew how, it was an enjoyable social activity.
Be it dancing as a couple or on their own in a disco, a lot of men now refuse to -dance. Because they feel awkward or they can't dance or it's not macho or some just affirm they hate it.
I as a woman, and as most women I'm guessing, have always wanted to be able to dance with the men I like. I don't have one girlfriend who doesn't comment occasionally how their man rarely dances with them and they wish it would happen more.
I can see most of the men rolling their eyes at about this point. Why?
I have had dancing classes a few times in my life and there are always more women than men. See, if any of the men want tips on where to find single women, that's a pretty good start - dancing classes.
I don't think dancing is emasculating at all. I think dancing is such a primordial, feel-good, sexy, body-moving, soul-shaking thing that I can't understand why men are shying more and more away from dancing with women they like.
Why do you think this is happening?
I will offer up some of my own thoughts:
-Some men think it's emasculating, because they see other men who don't give a dance shaking it away on the dance floor without a care. Well men apparently must at all times keep their "composure" (not cry, be a man, yadda yadda).
-Some men actually don't feel the music. Like some women. But I would think that would be a minority of people, no? So they don't actually see the point in dancing.
-It's hard to dance and also look good to some of the crap music that is going around nowadays in discos. (techno, house). There's not much you can do to spice it up a bit if the music is always the same repetition and you end up just banging your head and waving your arms about - at least not without having lessons in beating the drudge.
-They don't play slow songs in most discos anymore so how would any guy learn how to dance as a couple?
-Some men think dance lessons are gay.
-Some women laugh at men who can't dance and point at them when they do (I'm sure this must be the paranoic interpretation of some men
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-Dancing is no longer in its own right just an enjoyable and entertaining activity, as most places you can go dancing in are either meat markets or places where older couples go and dance to slushy old love songs.
-Romance nowadays just ain't what it used to be.
-Some men get nervous to dance from some of the reasons listed above.
For me, I love men who dance. Granted it's always embarrassing when you realize your date will dance but then proceeds to step on your feet and dance like a monkey with no rhythm. I guess I'd draw the line there. But men just aren't trying anymore, they're not interested. But if there are so many women who do want them to dance with them, why is the tendency for them to not dance?
I'd love to know what you think about this.
Edit: Just a note - some of you will say "but discos are full of men dancing" and I say no, they are not dancing. Shaking your hips very slightly with a drink in your hand while checking girls out and trying to make it look like you're not is not dancing IMO. I mean DANCING. Like they're enjoying it and love it and need to move their bodies and aren't checking out the meat at the butcher or doing it grudgingly because their girlfriend has riled them into it. Good, glad we got that one out of the way.
