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I have done that and it did work ou into a serious relationship, but in the end it didn't last. I'd say that it may work, but it's more likely not to. It depends on the two people involved. For me nowadays I wouldn't do that because of course it can be a risk in terms of health, but also because I think that if you're going to be with someone for sometihng meaningful, then that can wait a while and it's better to get to know them well first. I know that sometimes you can't tell right off what will happen in the future, but for me I have a very strong instinct about relationships and when I have met someone who later became my boyfriend, I always had a pretty strong feeling about them right from the start.
I also think that when you do too much too fast, what often happens is that one of the two is going faster than the other without realizing it, and then the other person usually ends up feeling pressured and that always ends badly.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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