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clavus · 09-11-2006, 04:08 PM

I have two boys - 3 and 6.

They do not know that I had a sister and that she died a couple of years ago. My sister lived an utterly self-centered life and rarely thought beyond immediate gratification. She killed herself with drugs, food and late-term abortions(s).

I am of two minds as to what to do with this information.

1) Withhold it until the kids are MUCH older and discover the alcohol/drugs. I figure by then, they will have developed some sense of immortality and will be prone to doing stupid, dangerous things. (I did. My dad did. His dad did. It will happen).

Then I'll drop the bomb - "You know, there ARE consequences for your actions. You CAN die from this stuff. Did you know that I had a sister...?"

2) Allow them to grow up knowing that I had a sister and that she died. Dribble the information out over the years, as they are old enough to handle it.

What do you think the most effective way to use this information to help my kids stay alive and healthy?

Yes yes yes, I know it is important to talk to your kids about dangerous vices, and set a good example blah blah blah. I do that already and will continue to do so. But how should I use the tale of my dead sister?

09-11-2006, 04:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
clavus pow! Location: NorCal	Best use for a dead sister? I have two boys - 3 and 6. They do not know that I had a sister and that she died a couple of years ago. My sister lived an utterly self-centered life and rarely thought beyond immediate gratification. She killed herself with drugs, food and late-term abortions(s). I am of two minds as to what to do with this information. 1) Withhold it until the kids are MUCH older and discover the alcohol/drugs. I figure by then, they will have developed some sense of immortality and will be prone to doing stupid, dangerous things. (I did. My dad did. His dad did. It will happen). Then I'll drop the bomb - "You know, there ARE consequences for your actions. You CAN die from this stuff. Did you know that I had a sister...?" 2) Allow them to grow up knowing that I had a sister and that she died. Dribble the information out over the years, as they are old enough to handle it. What do you think the most effective way to use this information to help my kids stay alive and healthy? Yes yes yes, I know it is important to talk to your kids about dangerous vices, and set a good example blah blah blah. I do that already and will continue to do so. But how should I use the tale of my dead sister? __________________ Ass, gas or grass. Nobody rides for free.