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Cervantes · 08-30-2006, 10:03 AM

This is a very interesting question,
In my opinion it is not a choice, sexual preference is something that is not within our control.

I see the world a bit differently, like Freud I think, he had some similar ideas, can't remeber what he called it though.
It is like this, sexuality is sexuality, I don't belive in heterosexuality or homosexuality. Those lables gives the idea that sexuality is divided somehow by impassible limits.
As I see it we are all sexual (bisexual) by nature but our sexual preferences makes us prefer certain traits in the ones we fall in love with, such as gender.

I also differentiate between hard preferences and weak preferences, that being for somone who is, by the "old" way of defining it, heterosexual has a hard preference for partens with the opposite gender. Whereas a guy who prefers big breasts instead of small ones has a weak preference for big breasts. You get the idea.

The weak preferences you can go beyond (ie. the guy can fall in love with a smallbreasted woman) without any serious trouble, but the hard ones are usually, well, harder to pass, not insurmountable but just a heck of a lot harder and usually don't give even close to the same satisfaction as following your preference.

Just as bisexuality is usually biased, meaning they usually prefer one gender a bit more than the other, heterosexuality and homosexuality is hard biases in this "scale".

These preferences are not our choices as I see it, you can't convince somone to fall in love with you. Following that line of thought, you can't convince yourself to fall in love with somone inside or outside of the hard preferences.
Love is love and part of it's beauty is that we can't control it.

08-30-2006, 10:03 AM	#71 (permalink)
Cervantes Psycho Location: Above you	This is a very interesting question, In my opinion it is not a choice, sexual preference is something that is not within our control. I see the world a bit differently, like Freud I think, he had some similar ideas, can't remeber what he called it though. It is like this, sexuality is sexuality, I don't belive in heterosexuality or homosexuality. Those lables gives the idea that sexuality is divided somehow by impassible limits. As I see it we are all sexual (bisexual) by nature but our sexual preferences makes us prefer certain traits in the ones we fall in love with, such as gender. I also differentiate between hard preferences and weak preferences, that being for somone who is, by the "old" way of defining it, heterosexual has a hard preference for partens with the opposite gender. Whereas a guy who prefers big breasts instead of small ones has a weak preference for big breasts. You get the idea. The weak preferences you can go beyond (ie. the guy can fall in love with a smallbreasted woman) without any serious trouble, but the hard ones are usually, well, harder to pass, not insurmountable but just a heck of a lot harder and usually don't give even close to the same satisfaction as following your preference. Just as bisexuality is usually biased, meaning they usually prefer one gender a bit more than the other, heterosexuality and homosexuality is hard biases in this "scale". These preferences are not our choices as I see it, you can't convince somone to fall in love with you. Following that line of thought, you can't convince yourself to fall in love with somone inside or outside of the hard preferences. Love is love and part of it's beauty is that we can't control it. __________________ - "Philosophy is questions that may never be answered. Religion is answers that may never be questioned.." - "Religions take everything that your DNA naturally wants to do to survive and pro-create and makes it wrong." - "There is only one absolute truth and that is that there is only one absolute truth."