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Originally Posted by JimmyTheHutt
Once you are there, the odds are you will never escape. Better to walk and spare yourself the frustration. I've done it more than once, and felt better about myself as a result.
Veritas et Lux!
Jimmy The Hutt
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now, i'm a very analytical/proplem solving oriented guy, so i think there is always a solution to a problem out there. and i've been thinking about this for a while now, and i believe that there is a realization.
what i have come to realize is that a guy who finds himself in the "friend/nice guy" essentially has nominated himself to be there. for the most part, any guy has a chance with any chick, and if he wastes his opportunity to step up, he essential says "hey, i dont have the balls so i think i'm just going to settle for this".
but what is a guy like me to do if he suddenly develops the balls and confidence, and wants to shed himself of the "nice guy" label? i think it is possible. now this might just be more bullshit and me talking out of my ass than anything, but it might have just a grain of truth to it.
1.) the nice guy can find a replacement "nice guy/friend" for this chick. a sort of deflection for a time being. during this time, someone like me has an opportunity to take control of the friendship and evolve it as they see fit. i guess it would be like finding some other poor sap, omega male to take over the reigns.
2.) the nice guy can fade out of the friendship for a time (or at least limit his contact with this girl), and return down the road with a new attitude towards the "relationship".
this in theory only works when this girl is single. because returning to a chick who is still in a relationship does little to help evolve the friendship into something else.
and a little off topic here to end it: but has anyone ever heard Tom Lynkis (spelling). he's on in most places on the west coast, and has quite an interesting, and for the most part, correct view on women and relationships.