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Old 06-13-2006, 04:30 PM   #50 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
Im sorry, I just have to say....if you are living with the right person, you dont give anything up. Not one time in almost 3 years do I feel like I've "lost or given up" one damn thing. If we want quiet time we give the other quiet time, if one of us wants friends over...those friends come over. I gained by living with Dave before marriage.....not given up.

(this is gonna sound wrong and I dont mean it to...but I know it will)
HOW does a person "love" someone they dont want to spend all their time with?
I think you do lose some of your freedoms, if only out of respect for the other person. For instance, I can't just drop everything and drive up to my parents' without a moment's notice--being in a relationship and having respect for my partner means telling him where I am going and/or planning in advance, especially for big trips such as that. If I just got up and left the apartment, I think he'd probably be a little puzzled, maybe even a little hurt that I didn't tell him where I was going or what I was doing--though sometimes I do tell him that I am going on a "mystery adventure" and he just has to live with that explanation.

I also can't be as fiscally irresponsible as I once was because I feel that I have another person to think of when spending. I suppose in the end the loss of that freedom is really something gained--I've saved a lot more money than I ever have before.

But yes, I think in the end it is a case of something lost but far more gained, in the right situation.
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