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Originally Posted by match000
the other night she told me she doesn't see AT ALL why dating/romance should need to involve ANY physicality. She literally said "I don't see why it needs to involve any of that stuff (sex, physical fun, etc), why can't it just be like this [talking]."
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Well, speaking as a former evangelical Christian, I'll tell you that I felt EXACTLY the same way as she did, once. I pulled that line on my poor, poor, blue-balled boyfriend in college, without a clue of the damage it did. (He was my first kiss, when I was 19, and even then it took AGES.) We hardly got to 2nd base, before I started calling that off, too... wanting to "save it for marriage." So yes, girls like that DO exist... especially if they're religious, and especially if they're young, in college, and involved in a religious social group (is she?). My entire uni was Christian, so it felt very justified at the time... but I look back and wonder W T F kind of stick was up my ass, and what was I missing out on??
Anyway, I've been in her shoes, and she's missing out on something great. But you're not going to be the one that teaches her that, I think. It takes a long time to process those things out... I don't know if you really can wait around. Sometimes it never changes, either. (I was lucky.)